Party Armour

So turns out I’m an ambivert. I’ve never heard this term before but it seems to fit. An ambivert is someone who exhibits qualities of both introvert and extrovert.

Here’s why…

1. I can perform tasks alone or in a group. I don’t have much preference either way.
2. Social settings don’t make me uncomfortable, but I get tired of being around people too much.
3. Being the center of attention is fun for me, but I don’t like it to last.
4. Some people think I’m quiet, while others think I’m very social.
5. I don’t always need to be moving, but too much down time leaves me feeling bored.
6. I can get lost in my own thoughts just as easily as I can lose myself in a conversation.
7. Small talk doesn’t make me uncomfortable, but it does get boring.

I went to a party on Friday which was great, but I didn't know many people and I was surprised at how nervous I was. Booze gave me my party armour.

I know I'm not an introvert but l'm also not an extrovert. I like my comfort zone these days and my friends around me. When I'm in small groups I thrive, but big groups are too much.

It's a huge relief to finally understand who I am. Putting down the bottle has been insightful, liberating and above all empowering. I can now make decisions based on fact. I choose to do the things I know will serve me, add to my happiness and well-being. I can think a situation through carefully without jumping to an emotional response. I can feel hard feelings and understand that they pass.

Triggers come and go. I try to talk to myself as I would a friend.

These observations sound like cliches but they are real and have come about because I've stuck to my goal and stayed sober. I'm so proud of who I have become. Knowing myself now, allows me to manage my stress levels without having to rely on alcohol for confidence.

Take a moment to think about your choices when it comes to going out. What you say yes to. What you say no to. Does drinking allow you to become a person you are not really, deep down?

I know I’m not an introvert but I’m also not an extrovert. I like my comfort zone these days and my friends around me. When I’m in small groups I thrive, but big groups can be too much.

The past 5 years of being social without booze, have been educating, liberating and above all empowering. I can now make decisions based on fact. I choose to do the things I know will serve me, add to my happiness and well-being. I can think a situation through carefully without jumping to an emotional response. I can feel hard feelings and understand that they pass. Triggers come and go. I try to talk to myself as I would a friend.

These observations sound like cliches but they are real and have come about because I’ve really taken the time to explore who I am and take bold steps towards a life of fulfilment and intention.

Take a moment to think about your choices when it comes to going out. What you say yes to. What you say no to.

Does drinking allow you to become a person you are not really, deep down?

If you want to find out who you are again, beneath the ‘party armour’ or personas you have constructed to keep you safe or social, I can help. Reach out and book a Discovery Call today. We can have an informal chat, no pressure, no obligation.