The past four years of being social without booze, have been educating, liberating and above all empowering. I can now make decisions based on fact. I choose to do the things I know will serve me, add to my happiness and well-being. I can think a situation through carefully without jumping to an emotional response. I can feel hard feelings and understand that they pass. Triggers come and go. I try to talk to myself as I would a friend.

Exploring your relationship with alcohol can be the beginning of a powerful journey of self-discovery. In this post, I share the books that shaped my own path into sober curiosity and alcohol-free living. From Annie Grace’s This Naked Mind to Laura McKowen’s We Are The Luckiest, these authors offer compassion, insight and inspiration for anyone questioning their drinking habits. Each book invites awareness, growth and emotional wellbeing, helping you see that this journey is not about giving something up, but about gaining more of yourself.

Why You're Not to Blame

Gabor Maté on addiction, alcohol and healing the hurt.

Many women who come to me feel weighed down by shame and self-blame around their drinking. They’ve told themselves they should have more willpower, that they should know better, and that every slip means they’ve failed.

But there’s a different, far more compassionate way to understand what’s happening and why you drink too much, and too often.

12 years ago I had an idea.  To create a community for women who wanted to change their relationship with alcohol. 

My desire to create spaces for women to reconnect with joy and purpose, was borne out of a very personal need.  My own relationship with over-drinkjng was a very lonely and isolating place. 

Fast forward 12 years, and 4 years alcohol-free, and I’m still evangelical about the wonders of an alcohol-free lifestyle.  I have found a way to live happily,

When you get sober, you don’t just give up alcohol, you give up your identity and this can be messy, confusing and very scary. But equally, it can also be wonderful.

I have spent hundreds of hours learning about alcohol and its impact on the brain and on the body. I’ve read books, listened to podcasts, spoken to friends and people in recovery, journaled and taken plants for medicine.

Everything and anything to understand and find ways to live life in a new and healthy way.

Just introducing myself, to give a little background on my story, and my mission to help women ‘drink less and live more.’

There are many different types of drinkers. I am a binge-drinker, with no off switch. For me drinking was all about connecting so I didn’t feel alone. Yet at the same time it was also the thing which disconnected me the most - from friends, family and also from the essence of me.

Another year over, another year sober.

It’s impossible not to reflect on what came before, when you get well and take alcohol, chaos and late nights out the picture
I really feel so unbelievably grateful, every single day.

Sobriety - the worst thing to happen to me, has become the best thing to happen to me

Feeling a bit run down?
A little bit broken after a long boozy summer?
If you're looking forward to the Stoptober pause but secretly wondering how you'll keep it up afterwards, you're not alone. Let's chat about your goals and how you want to feel, and get you started on the road to more joy and more freedom.